All We See is Black or White


THIS POST IS ABOUT COLOR AS IT RELATES TO RACE. Usually my posts are inspiring, uplifting in a certain direction, but with all the talk of race in the news-I am sharing another perspective and hopefully inspire in a different sense. Also to my followers make note I made a separate category for these kind of posts.

If something is wrong and unjust, we should be able to speak up-regardless of the color of our skin. We can say it peacefully. I think we have seen so much derogatory commentary in regards to addressing people of other races that we can’t see beyond skin color anymore.

Race has once again divided our nation. And apparently it is still centralized around being black or white, sometimes Hispanic is thrown in there. What I’m realizing is it’s not even about race though, it’s about the color of your skin.

If I wanted to speak against something I see in a black friend or peer, a political figure-I would also be setting myself up for being labeled as a “racist”. It’s because I’m light skinned. Yet my prime roots are embedded in North Africa.

However if I sit around and carry on about a white counterpart-somehow this is more acceptable and easier to swallow. Why? Because I’m light skinned and we’ve accepted this hypocritical criticism in society. If you’re “black” you most likely can openly speak on “black” people without the first thing coming to mind in others is RACIST and if you are “white” you can do the same thing with “white” people without being called the same. However people like me-you can’t tell by looking at my skin that I’m African-we are sitting in the middle.

I’ve experienced both of these. My skin color hasn’t changed. And perhaps the issue I am addressing hasn’t either-the only variable is the skin color of the person I am addressing.

I’ve heard white people who don’t know I’m mixed make the most racist comments towards African Americans to my face. And I’ve been on the receiving end of black people calling me racist because they just see the reflection of my skin color, and not the reflection of the morals in which we are speaking of. It’s an interesting dynamic.

 Why do I have to embrace a color-and cannot embrace a race? Why is it that because my skin color doesn’t reflect my race-that I have to go around with a sticky note on my forehead labeling myself in order to receive equal treatment from both “races”.

The point of this all is to highlight two things, 1. that race is nothing anymore-it’s all about skin color which leads me to the second thing I want to highlight-that it looks like we are moving backwards as a nation. Many of us, all we seem to see is the color of a person’s skin, once again. I don’t really get offended when I notice the difference in treatment I get when someone does discover my race. I don’t because not only is it something I have experienced my whole life-but it also puts me in a position to speak on the issue. If anything it has taught me not to get offended-I actually feel bad for the demographic of people who cannot see beyond someone’s skin color while engaging in moral/ethical conversation.

Unfortunately many of us won’t care to widen our eyes. The “racially ambiguous” folk will unwillingly sit in the middle of this skin war, trying to be neutral, focused more on not “offending” whites and blacks alike, instead of simply speaking up on what is right.

You can sit there and say it’s ignorance, and by far most of it is. But I see this contradictory attitude deriving from two sources outside of ignorance. 1. As a human race we don’t know how to set our feelings aside and view just v. unjust. And 2. We only see black and white. Furthermore, ignorance is no longer an acceptable excuse. This has been an issue that keeps resurfacing in our society-creating tension, dividing people. Educate yourself already.


    • We are indeed all connected. However that is religious perspective that we don’t all share. That’s the hard part-people don’t see how we all look different but we all have the capacity to carry the same humility. We all bleed. We all can love and hate. We all can main a focus and sustain it. However we have a hard time seeing this as a thread of commons because of our difference in tans.

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  1. As tough as it is the color of our skin is driving this racial divide today. Our brains are lazy and it’s part of the reason why we say it’s race. People literally see me walking and give me those looks like I’m up to something. In uniform I can still get those same looks as if I’m in uniform. Funny how people respect the service but my skin changes their view. We can’t change our skin which leads me to believe something drastic needs to happen to move us all out of our laziness and comfort zones. How else will we look at each other past our skin.

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    • Yes, I hear you (by the way did you see I nominated you for the mystery blogger award😎👏🏽👏🏽) yeah we claim we don’t see “color” but we do. Not all of us. I think some people don’t and they genuinely just love people and try to seek the good in all. But many of us-I guess you can call it lazy-because ignorance is just not cool anymore. I experience racism in a different way than you do. And I’ll never be on the receiving end of a black male experiencing it in/out of uniform. But I hope to never be mistaken to be on the other end, dishing it out. And it really does heighten depending on where you go in this country. South Florida has gotten a lot better, but still when I’ve dated dark skinned men I get the “looks” whereas I date someone who looks like my “race” it’s all good….ignorant to the fact that I actually share less of a racial relationship with the latter than the first. 🙄🙄🙄🙄I’m over it. People need to realize it’s not black and white. We are mixed-we truly are a melting pot.


  2. I won’t understand how you’ve been treated or the experiences you’ve dealt with. It’s one thing to read it, but living it is another. It’s crazy you’ve dated dark skinned men and received the looks. What does it matter to them you know. It’s crazy the lengths people are going to undo the progress made. Why see me as just a black man as treat me different yet when I put the uniform on now you want to respect me? Lol I’m trying to get over it too, we just need more people to get over it as well

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